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Finesse






"This is the recipe of life
said my mother
as she held me in her arms as i wept
think of those flowers you plant 
in the garden each year
they will teach you 
that people too
must wilt
fall
root
rise 
in order to bloom"
-Rupi Kaur



 The things that happen in your life are specific to you and just because you don't want them to happen does not mean they won't. Something I've come to find with time is that every circumstance in your life is to make you the person you are meant to be. That is to say that all the bullshit you go through in life is there to make you some kind of better person. And though at times life feels impossible to conquer, your life is nothing short of a miracle. The life you are living is a work of art and if you know art, you know it is always a work in process. Now I could just tell you that in hopes that you'd understand what the universe is doing to make the best possible you, but its not enough. So here's this...

It's been taking me forever to come up with new content recently because I've been so buried in final projects and end of the semester bs that I'd rather not be doing. Being an architecture major means spending money on materials to build final projects and dedicating a ton of time to studio to get it all done. On top of that a couple weeks ago I was the chosen victim of a professional scam. I got a call from the so called "government," talking to me about the money I owed to the IRS and money I could receive in grants. These individuals were clever enough to send me fake documentations of who they were, know exactly what my financial situation was and who I was, and convince me to give them money. These were professionals who chose their victims wisely and unfortunately robbed me of a lot of money, leaving me broke and even more stressed out. So basically I have no money for rent, am working 3 jobs to make up for that, and have no time to do it all. These are circumstances I clearly did not ask for but am having to adapt to. These are real life obstacles I didn't have the option to dodge, but rather have to react to them. And thats just it.

That's the way life works. Stuff happens to you and you just have to react to them. You have to roll with the punches and accept the challenges. I read a quote on FB the other day that said "When you can't control what's happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what's happening. That is where your power is." And it's true. When stuff is out of your control you just have to choose the right way to react to them. You gotta keep your head high and pretend like that shit didn't phase you and keep pushing forward. You have to finesse your way through life. For me this means busting my ass to make up for the money I lost. This means reminding myself everyday that it is going to be okay and telling myself I'm strong enough to get past this. Because at the end of the day it's life testing me. Its the universe challenging me to react and learn to overcome any circumstance thrown my way. My reaction of course is not an easy one, but I know if i keep myself positive and push myself to figure it all out I will.

And so will you. So hear this...

Shit happens and life is hard. But life is not about dodging obstacles, but rather reacting and learning from them. Reacting to them in a positive way is the best way to have life work in your favor. Handle your life gracefully like you've been training for this. Fall and Rise.

Peace and Love,
Jaz


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